Go view this Nick Cannon song/video over at Standing Up For Life . I'm not one who regularly indulges in hip hop music, but I liked this song and it's message. Who knew his mother almost aborted him?
My mum's doctors pressured her relentlessly in the early part of her pregnancy with me to get an abortion. Why? She had just had t-lap surgery (I guess this is a technical term for cutting her open in a t-shape to remove cysts on her ovaries) and they told her "no pregnancies" for a certain amount of time. Well, apparently, my parents couldn't control themselves and here I am! I'm not certain when I heard our story for the first time, but I am fairly certain I was quite young. I have heard our story a few times in my lifetime.
It's a profoundly strange thing to think about. My mother was "begged" to murder me. Keep in mind that especially at that time in her life she was struggling with having my older sister, just having lost a son . . . surgery, my dad was a heavy drinker then . . . and another thing: the absolute horror of an earlier event in her life before she married my dad. This is not the forum nor is it my story per se, but I doubt my mother will sue me. I think she would want women to know that the medical establishment in her time - before Roe Vs. Wade - was also quite anti-life. She had become in the family way in the early sixties (not my father's). To make long story short: she was tricked into a clinic where they gave her a physical exam and a pill . . . within twenty-four hours her baby was lost . . . which she took him to the clinic where a doctor chopped up the dead baby and threw him away. Right in front of her, telling her it was for her own good and best interest!
Part of me realizes that boy is the reason I am here today. That single event so traumatized my dear mother that . . . no way was she going to contribute to the murder of another child, especially willingly. To say she feels guilty about her misfortunate naivety then is an understatement. That pain has hurt all of us, because it hurt the lady we love and know as mum.
I'm 39 - and a constant reminder to her, my family, and myself, that life is worth living . . . Thank you, mum, for letting me live.
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Wow! I am so glad you shared this story, Sarah!
i cant believe the deception these people will do. well, i can believe it but i cant believe they think it is ok to do so. disgusting.
good for your mom for standing up for what is right!!
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Oh, my gosh, Sarah, I cannot believe what your mom has gone through. Wow, the pain. It's unimaginable.
I'm glad you are here.
thanks for sharing her story.
just so you know, I've emailed a link to this post to a couple of folks who I know will appreciate reading it.
What a story! Good reminder too that we need to change not only the laws but also the hearts and minds of people. Your poor mom. What a horrible trauma. God bless her. And I'm so glad she was able to bring you to life!
Sarah, I'd like to introduce you to Heidi Saxton.
She has two blogs,
http://mommymonsters.blogspot.com/
and
http://extraordinarymomsnetwork.wordpress.com/
she is a Catholic author, adoptive mother and very cool lady. She frequently posts on her blogs against abortion.
She is interested in linking to this post, with your permission.
feel free to email me with your response, or get in touch with her.
my email is "this(dot)mightymom(at)yahoo(dot)com"
thanks
Sarah
Sarah,
I'm sure glad you are here!
Bless your Momma and may she
know how much God loves her and you are living proof that she loves God too! :)
All - it's amazing how hard this tiny post was to write . . . when I really sat and thought about the choice she was faced with. The doctor really tried to pursuade her to abort me . . . my pregnancy was at risk due to her having just had surgery. I mean, the doctor's probably didn't know and were guessing she would spontaneously lose me anyway. Well, why not let what is going to happen, happen? Why not wait and see? But she felt very pressured. And, yes, I believe the trauma of her first pregnancy and how it "ended" did not help her mental state at all - I could write chapters about verbal abuse and all kinds of things, but the reality is: the struggle she faced in finding God and hanging on like Jacob (remember his wrestle with the angel - he said he would not let go until he was blessed?) - I can only imagine the depth of pain and suffering and rethinking of her life and all that - but what I see is a woman of God, who has come a very long way in her lifetime and GOd has blessed her and she's lived to see it.
(((hugs))) to you and your mama. Thanks for sharing this story. I am also so glad you are here.
After your last comment..I am sure she is a woman of God..no doubt, as is her sweetheart daughter! :)
Thanks, Kissteen (sorry, its sticking!!). I would have liked to have given more details, but I think it's enough said.
Suz, awww, you're so sweet! My mum and I aspire to sainthood yet!!
Thank you for sharing this incredibly painful story. It just might help save yet another child. You may never know the ripple effects in this life. May God continue to bless your dear mother.
Blessings,
Anne
Thanks, Anne, for coming by. I'm going to spend time reading your blog tomorrow - between uploading tests to Seton. God bless you.
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